Inner Child Workshop
It is becoming clearer to psychologists, therapists and healers that the inner child has more of an influence over our lives than we were previously aware. This part, although living in our subconscious mind, is a living conscious part. It is the child we once were and it holds all our hurts, disappointments, traumas, anger, negative feelings and sadness.
We may not all have experienced trauma or extreme difficulties, but we have all experienced upset and possibly hurt to a greater or lesser degree. Often these past pains are reflected in our current life circumstances. That bout of depression, that anxiety, those panic feelings, those critical thoughts, those issues with food, that fear of intimacy and so on. These are all brought on by your inner child, because that part has not healed and it wants you to know. It wants you to go back and give it a hug, it wants you to listen and help, and it wants your love. When upsetting or sad things happen to us as children we don’t just forget about it. It becomes suppressed within us, and at a later date will manifest as illness, bad days, the blues, anger, fears, self-sabotage or something else.
So to undo the conditioning or upsets from the past we have to connect with our inner child, we then have to help heal this part which will in turn free us from all that seems to disable us.
Connecting with the inner child is a relatively easy exercise which you can do right in this moment. To fully heal your inner child takes time and possibly the revisiting of many childhood memories where you would help the child to release trauma, pain or even something little which felt big to you as a child at the time. This form of healing is hugely valuable and can change your life in an instant. We identify fears that we have had for years and learn to love and accept ourselves from an adult perspective.
We build upon our fragile self-esteem and learn to comfort ourselves in healthy new ways. Your inner child wants your adult self to give it love, attention, acceptance, and protection. It is fragile and vulnerable.
This inner child is playful, fun, and very creative. Many of us have rejected our own inner child and need to go within to find and then nurture this fragile entity within us. This is a process and takes some time to do. If you are open to the process of healing and integration that will reconnect you to your amazing inner child you need to realise that this can be a frightening process. Several negative and sometimes terrifying feelings can resurface from within. Again, one must be responsible enough to self- monitor and to know when it is time to seek out a therapist for the appropriate help.
The goal of inner-child work is to bring out the beautiful, precious inner child and learn to love it as a parent loves a child. Once these lost parts have been acknowledged, accepted, and feel safe you will begin to feel more “whole” and find a sense of joy and happiness that you never felt before.
Tom and Christine Moran, MA, MIACP, MNAPCP, experienced facilitators, counsellors/ psychotherapists and supervisors.
“Although this workshop was difficult for me, I felt supported by the facilitators and the setting was beautiful for the deep therapeutic work we were doing. It was a safe and powerful experience. Thank you both.” – Emma